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Why Every Parent Should Think About Estate Planning Before College Move-In Day
— The weeks leading up to college are filled with shopping trips, dorm room checklists, meal plans, and emotional goodbyes. Parents spend countless hours making sure their child has everything they need to succeed away from home. Yet one of the most important items rarely makes the packing list.
Once your child turns 18, they become a legal adult. That birthday changes much more than whether they can vote or sign contracts—it changes your legal authority as a parent.
Many parents are shocked to learn that if their 18-year-old is hospitalized after an accident or becomes seriously ill, doctors may not be able to discuss their condition with them or allow them to make medical decisions unless the proper legal documents are already in place.
The good news is that this problem is entirely preventable.
As an estate planning attorney, I believe every family with a college-bound student should have these documents completed before move-in day. That’s why our office prepares these essential estate planning documents at no cost for our clients’ college students.
Turning 18 Changes Everything Legally
One day you’re signing permission slips. The next day, your child is legally responsible for making their own medical, financial, and educational decisions.
Parents often assume that because they pay tuition, provide health insurance, or claim their child as a dependent, they automatically retain legal authority during an emergency. Unfortunately, that isn’t how the law works.
At age 18, your child becomes the only person legally authorized to:
- Make healthcare decisions
- Access medical records
- Authorize treatment
- Manage financial affairs
- Control who may receive educational information
Without proper planning, parents can find themselves unable to help during one of the most stressful moments of their lives.
Imagine This Scenario
Your daughter is away at college several states from home. Late one evening, you receive a phone call that she has been involved in a serious automobile accident. You immediately travel to the hospital.
But when you arrive, the medical staff explains that because your daughter is an adult, they cannot discuss her condition or allow you to make medical decisions unless you have legal authority. You’re already in shock, but this makes it even worse. You are her parent, you argue, of course you should be the one making decisions, not the doctor.
Yet legally, none of that matters. Without the proper documents, healthcare providers must follow privacy laws and wait for your child to make decisions herself—if she is even capable of doing so.
This is exactly the situation estate planning is designed to prevent.
The Three Essential Estate Planning Documents Every College Student Needs
1. Healthcare Power of Attorney (Healthcare Proxy)
A Healthcare Power of Attorney allows your child to appoint someone—typically a parent—to make medical decisions if they become unable to communicate or make decisions for themselves.
This document can allow you to:
- Speak with physicians
- Discuss treatment options
- Authorize procedures
- Transfer your child between medical facilities
- Make critical healthcare decisions during emergencies
Without it, hospitals may have to seek court intervention before someone can legally act on your child’s behalf.
2. HIPAA Authorization
Many parents assume doctors will automatically share information with them. Federal privacy laws say otherwise. The Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act (HIPAA) protects the privacy of medical information.
Without a signed HIPAA Authorization, healthcare providers may refuse to discuss:
- Medical diagnoses
- Test results
- Medications
- Treatment plans
- Hospital status
Even something as simple as asking, “How is my son doing?” may not receive an answer.
A HIPAA Authorization gives doctors permission to communicate with designated family members. It does not take away your child’s rights—it simply allows communication when it matters most.
3. Durable Financial Power of Attorney
Medical emergencies often create financial problems. If your child is unable to handle financial matters temporarily, someone may need authority to:
- Access bank accounts
- Pay rent
- Handle tuition issues
- Manage insurance claims
- Sign financial documents
- Deal with government agencies
A Durable Financial Power of Attorney allows a trusted person to step in if necessary.
Although many parents initially focus on healthcare documents, financial authority can become equally important during a prolonged illness or serious injury.
Students Going to College Out of State Need Additional Attention
Many students attend college hundreds—or even thousands—of miles from home. Parents should make sure their estate planning documents comply with the laws of the state where their child attends school.
Although many states recognize properly executed documents from other states, requirements can differ, and reviewing the documents before departure provides added peace of mind. An experienced estate planning attorney can help ensure the documents are effective wherever your student will be living.
Don’t Forget FERPA
Medical privacy isn’t the only law parents need to understand. The Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act (FERPA) protects the privacy of student education records.
When students turn 18 or enroll in a college or university, the rights previously held by parents transfer to the student.
That means colleges generally cannot discuss grades, academic standing, disciplinary matters, financial aid issues, or student records. Even if you are paying for their college experience, you have no rights here. But there is a solution .
If your student wants you to have access, they should complete the school’s FERPA Release or Student Consent Form through the registrar’s office. Every college has its own process, so this should be completed before classes begin.
Other Important Planning Parents Often Overlook
Estate planning is only one piece of preparing a young adult for independence. Here are several additional steps every family should consider before move-in day.
Review Health Insurance Coverage
Confirm:
- The nearest in-network hospital
- Coverage in another state
- Prescription benefits
- Mental health services
- Emergency transportation coverage
Knowing these details ahead of time can save valuable time during an emergency.
Make Sure Emergency Contacts Are Updated
Students should update emergency contacts with:
- The college
- Student housing
- Healthcare providers
- Health insurance carrier
Cell phones should also have emergency contacts listed using the Medical ID feature.
Discuss Medical History
Your child should know their current medications, allergies, contact information for their primary care physician and any relevant family medical history. This information may be needed unexpectedly, so they should maintain hard copy and digital information including health insurance cards, their Driver’s license, student ID, emergency contacts, and estate planning documents.
Have the Difficult Conversation
No one wants to discuss the possibility of bad things happening, but parents and children should have conversations about their wishes in case of a serious end-of-life situation. This is a part of adulthood, for the children and their parents.
Peace of Mind for Parents—and Students
No one wants to imagine receiving that late-night phone call, but emergencies happen every day. Having the proper legal documents in place can mean the difference between being actively involved in your child’s care and sitting helplessly in a waiting room while medical decisions are made without your input.
For many families, these documents are among the most important graduation gifts a parent can provide.
Our Gift to Clients’ Families
At our firm, we believe protecting the next generation begins as they begin adulthood. That’s why we prepare these essential estate planning documents at no cost for the college-age children of our estate planning clients.
It is our way of helping families protect the people they love during one of life’s biggest transitions. If your son or daughter is preparing for college—or has already turned 18—now is the perfect time to put these protections in place.
Hopefully, you’ll never need them.
But if you do, you’ll be grateful they were signed before move-in day.
Ready to protect your college student? Our clients are invited to contact our office today to schedule a complimentary estate planning appointment for your college-bound child and make sure your family is prepared before the semester begins.